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Bismillahirrahmanirrahim
Alhamdulillah,

Talking about marriage a lot of people will feel sorry. regret because they dont know the pleasure of marriage since the first or Regret because they feel a lot of misery. Marriage is not easy, just ijab qobul that easy to do. The five pillars of marriage must memorize and must complete all of them.

Similarly, the mandatory requirement of marriage to the man that must be considered. What if we do not have a cost? Must believe that each person had sustenance. married combines two sustenance, the sustenance of women and men. God did not create man to be hungry without food. man created to worship the God, and of course it is impossible for God does not give sustenance to us.

Expensive cost of marriage is no problem, which is important there. If you are married after the consent granted, don't brag with lavish reception. It is not going to be a blessing. For example in the inviting, include only the rich, the poor are not invited. Even the Prophet forbade a status discrimination when inviting. In a reception held not to expect replies earned income.

The best dowry is gold and money. Give her as much as we can, not only struggling with only a set of tools prayer. Rasulullah prefer the gold and money and this is the right woman. Early marriage do not imagine a nice house. we must be close to God especially for a wife. If the wife is close to God then he will be guaranteed by God, hopefully through us.

Three formulas should always keep in mind there is in surah Al-Asyr. Every  increased day, increased age, we are the loser people except three classes of the lucky group. The first group is people who always think hard how to increase his belief in God. For all the happiness and glory of it is directly proportional to the level of belief in God. No one except sincerely believe in God. No patient unless known to God. No the ascetic to the world except those who know God's wealth. No one is tawadhu except those who know the greatness of God. The more familiar and acquainted with God all is considered small. Every day in our lives we should think about how close to God.

If God already loves being all the business would be fine. One hundredth of a proof of God's merciful nature propagated to all its inhabitants could be seen the attitude of a mother who gave birth to a child Pain during childbirth, pregnancy nine months without a complaint that is not necessarily the child will repay him. Do not sleep when her illness, care of children ranging from kindergarten through high school. Thinking about college costs. Began to be funded until marriage to have children even justified the mother stay at home. But his willingness to still shine. That is one hundredth of the nature of God.

Do not fuss think that we need, it's all not going anywhere. God knows our needs than our own. God created the intestine with the design for the hungry is impossible not to be fed. God told us to close the genitals, it is impossible not given clothes. What we think God already knows what we think. We have to consider is how close to God, then God will take care of it.  Any person who kept close to God, will be given a way out of each business. And secured with the provision of places unexpected. And whoever convinced him of God who has everything, will be paid back all their needs. So is not this world be a problem but our relationship with Allah is the problem.

The second category is households who will lose are the households that are less charitable. Do not think of to accomplish what we want, but think about what we can do. Our minds should only think of two things: how the heart can be clean, honest, and clear so willing to do anything and that both continue to increase the strength to continue to do. The thought was not referring to making money but how menyedekahkan money, help, and happy person with a smile. So that wherever we are like a radiant sun that illuminates the dark, seed harvest, enliven the atmosphere. After that leave it to God. Each of us picked up trash for the sake of God's will
rewarded by Allah.

Let's change the paradigm. The most fortunate households are households of the most productive goodness. Money is money the most blessed of the highest productivity, is not pleased to see our money in deposits or savings accounts listed. Money should be placed on the BMT. What happens is multiefek for others, it made our money blessing. Instead of the money we saved in the bank then His bank went bankrupt, kept under the mattress fear of being robbed.

Be the origin of the productive rich. May have intended to house many of origin for the sake of God's blessing will be lucky. Purchase of land as wide as possible. Most of diwakafkan, then built a mosque. Rewards will flow to us until Yaumil reckoning. So keep looking for money rather than to enrich themselves but to distribute to the ummah. Charity it will not reduce but increase our wealth. So our minds will not get what we? but we will do what?. Is this the day I was helping people, have a smile, how I greet people, how many people I help you?

Increasingly demanding more and more tired. The stronger we demand that God did not permit it would not be realized. We ask respected, even God will show our shortcomings. We actually will be abused, hurt results. People who are lucky, every time thinking about the good productive. As I do live, after death we will not. If it did later God will give, that's his name sustenance. The lucky people are the most productive goodness.

The third home or the lucky man is his mind every day thinking about how he could be the truth and counsel patience and his lover in the truth and counsel patience. Every day look for input counsel everywhere. The words that we say the best is to ask for advice and counsel. Asked counsel to the child's father, still would not lose prestige. Similarly, a supervisor in the office.

We must strive every day to get information and corrections from the outside, we will not be a good counselor before he became a person who can be advised. We will not be able to give advice if we can not accept advice. Do not ever argue, increasingly busy defending themselves more clearly our own weaknesses. The reason is our weakness. How to answer the criticism is self-evaluation and improvement. It may take a month even a year. Enjoy counsel as evidence of the success and sustenance of life. Unfortunately only live once and a while just to deceive ourselves. Feeling cool in the world but contempt
before God. Feel clever but foolish in the eyes of God.

Hopefully we can apply the above three things.
Increase knowledge of each time elapsed so that faith increases, each time adding content to the charity.